There’s a lot of fish on the market, they say.
Yay! I didn’t get a job! Well at least not yet. Also, I haven’t received the “rejection” from my last potential employer. I’ve received worse: the silent treatment. So no, there is no closure. I’ve come to realization that job-hunting is analogous to mate-hunting; there’s a lot of damn fish in the vast ocean but that doesn’t mean all that fish is good for you.
Despite the 8% unemployment rate in the US right now, there is work out there. There is always going to be work out there. Of course, you may have a hard time getting the work because of all the competition, but it’s there. Needless to say, that doesn’t mean the job (that you assume will complete your life) is good for you. What I’m really trying to say is that there are a lot of shitty jobs out there. There are a lot of shitty guys out there, too. I usually am more sympathetic to people because I believe that many factors come into play for a person to be “shitty” (bad year, family issues, exs, heartbreak, etc). But, it’s quite interesting to note the similarities between finding a good job and finding the love of your life.
- The courting process
Everyone meets their “potential mate” differently. When you first make eye contact with a handsome man and pretty lady, you may or may not get a vibe. Maybe some of you go on dates with a longtime friend who just turned into potential fish one day, someone you don’t know too well but who you’d like to get to know more from school or work, or perhaps the best one—a blind date—set up by your friends. Regardless of how you meet, there is always some courting involved (by both the man and woman). Looking, talking, flirting, texting. Likewise, everyone gets their “potential job” differently as well. Sending professionally written e-mails, writing poetic cover letters, and tweaking your resume are all analogous to the courting that’s involved in not only Shakespeare’s comedic plays, but also our real life romances.
- Going on the first date, or second, or third…
When you finally charm that cutie enough, they may just say yes to going out on a date or getting a cup of coffee. Regardless of how romantic the restaurant is or how casual the coffee shop is, meeting with someone who might just have a shot at being your “soulmate” is just like going on the first interview with someone who you might just be working for. Like in the dating world, employers may also follow the “3 day” rule and won’t call you back immediately. If things go good the first time, you might just get a call for a second, or even third meeting. Don’t get a little too excited though— some potential fish may go on a couple dates/interviews with you and while everything seems like it went well, they will disappear into thin air or give you my favorite, the signature silent treatment.
- Do I get any Benefits?
It may seem like rainbows and butterflies, really. The location is great, the pay is great, there’s a “good title,” but how do you know if you’re really going to love what you’re going to be doing everyday for (maybe) the rest of your life? How do you know the person you’ve been clicking with the past few months will continue to click for (maybe) the rest of your life? Through the family that may not like them, the weight that may gain back, or your phases of not showering? Well, the truth is, you really don’t know. You’re not really gonna know until you take the leap and go for it and figure out what you love/what you don’t love, whether that be fish or jobs.
Until then, I continue being the crappy fisher that I am.
Ciao for now,